Singles and Matchmaking

Many single people say they have been seeking a marriage partner for a long time, but for some reason, it hasn’t happened. Because I believe in the kind of marriage that supports the growth and well-being of both partners, I love helping single people get to a place where they can commit to someone who is a good fit in the important ways.

In my psychotherapy practice, marriage-minded singles have a safe place to gain clarity about what they really want and need, what obstacles are getting in their way, and how to get past them. When my first article about Marriage Meetings appeared in a national publication in 1998, I received a phone call from a middle-aged man who thought I was hosting gatherings for singles hoping to find their soul mate at one.

A woman wrote to me with a similar misconception. She thought I was a matchmaker, and she has a single daughter . . .

The misunderstanding about “Marriage Meetings” happens often. I use the term to describe the tool of a weekly, structured meeting, a gentle, respectful conversation that I teach married couples to hold. Effective marriage meetings help keep a relationship on track. They increase intimacy, romance, teamwork, and smoother resolution of issues.

Still, when I am asked, “Are you a matchmaker,” the answer is not so simple.

In the traditional sense, I am not a matchmaker. In the spiritual sense, I definitely am. Whether or not you are seeking a life partner or already have one, I can help you to find true love–with your inner self! In the process, you gain self-acceptance, self-esteem, and a sense of what some clients call “wholeness,” all important ingredients for attracting a wonderful partner and maintaining a loving relationship.

If you are single and think you want to get married but somehow it isn’t working out, I highly recommend that you read this article by psychologist Miriam Adahan.  The article is called, “Are You Afraid of Marriage.” It confirms my observations about the importance for such people to gain understanding about what may be blocking them, and to then develop an action plan to support them to move on.

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