1. What kinds of people will benefit from your help?

Some examples:

  • A woman or man who wants to create a happier marriage.
  • A single or married woman who has focused on her successful career and now wants to grow personally and improve her relationship(s).
  • A single woman who wants to get past her obstacles to marrying.
  • A young man with anxiety about a career decision.
  • A young woman experiencing anxiety and depression with a  drug habit that limits her ability to make good choices in life.
  • An empty nest couple who wants to restore a positive connection with each other.

2. What are your qualifications as a therapist?

The University of Michigan School of Social Work, where I earned a Masters Degree in Social Work, emphasized both psychoanalytic and cognitive/behavioral approaches. A licensed psychotherapist since 1972,  I have had extensive training and experience in individual, couples, family and group therapy; gestalt therapy, art therapy, play therapy for children, sex therapy, and psychodrama. I keep up in the field by reading extensively, participating in educational conferences, and serving as an instructor of continuing education classes for therapists.

About what actually happens during actual therapy sessions, my approach is holistic, meaning I aim to attend to the “whole person”–psychological, social, and spiritual.  Each of us is unique. Your treatment is tailored to the particular aspects of your situation.

3. How can psychotherapy help me?

Through psychotherapy, you can move from a mode of survival to one of growth, joy, meaning, and more satisfying connections with others. Whether you are single or married, experiencing relationship or other difficulties at home or at work, for example, depression, anxiety, addiction, or have a child with behavioral problems,  I can assist you in identifying core issues, setting goals, and accomplishing them.

4.  Can you help me to make my spouse/child, or some other person change?

If you are the one who is experiencing stress, you will benefit from learning ways to help yourself feel better, regardless of how the other person behaves. Once you commit to therapy for yourself, you can expect to experience more fulfilling relationships.

5. Why can’t I use therapy just to vent about present and past difficulties?

Some venting may help you to connect with your feelings, which can be beneficial. Using the psychotherapy time solely to air frustrations, however, can foster a sense of hopelessness. I can help you to formulate and implement goals for yourself, and reverse this syndrome.

6.  What happens in a therapy session with you?

I encourage clients to set the agenda. I  listen attentively and assist as needed. My comments are intended to help you to achieve your goals.

7. How long does it take?

I would need to evaluate your particular area of concern. Some situational stresses are resolved within a few sessions. A longer term of therapy is generally needed to produce a lasting resolution for more longstanding, entrenched difficulties.

8.  Why can’t I just handle my problems on my own?

It is healthy to seek psychotherapy for long-lasting and recurring problems that you have not been able to resolve on your own. A skilled psychotherapist can help you move beyond self-defeating patterns and into a more fulfilling life.

9. Why do you write a book about Marriage Meetings?

I wrote Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted because a crying need exists for couples to learn how to create a 20th-century marriage that fulfills them emotionally and spiritually, as well as physically. In it, I provide step by step instructions for holding a gentle conversation with a simple, flexible agenda, guidelines, and positive communication skills. Marriage meetings foster more intimacy, romance, teamwork, and smoother resolution of challenges.

Most couples who relate respectfully can hold these meetings effectively on their own. Those with relationship challenges can benefit from my coaching then through one or more marriage meetings.  In-person sessions are best but, if necessary, they can be via telephone or online.




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